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Bali: The gifts and the lessons

July 7, 2014

During our pre-session meeting Dr. Rose Martinez asked us what drew us to this class, I remarked quite unashamed that for me it was her.  After having traveled to Chile with Rose and getting to know her in and around SOLES for various reasons, I find that her penchant for artistic expression is akin to my own.  We speak the same language. So off I went halfway across the world to soak up what I could of Bali from the person I thought could facilitate it best. My expectations were only to soak in a new way of being, thinking, and seeing the world.  I couldn’t conceptualize what it would be, and that was probably the biggest gift of them all, to go in completely open.  IMG_3477

What I was met with was art everywhere.  In the streets, on the sidewalks, in doors and on door frames, even the meals were plated in banana leaves and garnished with flowers.  Everything was art. Well, everything is art, but there was much more of an appreciate and a noticing of it within the Balinese culture.  It was as if the part of our senses that recognize expression were amplified. There was no white space, not in the paintings, not in the scenery, not in the culture. It was filled in completely and sometimes even colored outside of the lines.  In America there is a high value on structure, order, rules, and predictability.  The first time you drive or ride on a Balinese road you have to throw that out the window, if only for your sanity.  Here, it was different. Here the only rule was expression. Expression of pace. Expression of faith. Expression of culture. Expression of mythology. Expression of gratitude. Everything bursts with colors, smells are more pungent, sounds are more cacophonous, flavors are more complex.  Bali is living out loud.

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Every person is a teacher. Every place is a school. Every moment is a lesson.
~Ibu Sari

There were a lot of touching moments and people that we met in Bali but none affected me quite like meeting Ibusari.  She was a 30 year old divorcee–which is a huge deal in Bali, it ostracizes you in a way because belonging to a family, specifically a man, is really your footing in the community–who was not only running a school for special needs children but she was also empowering women through a women’s center.  She was building community, for me I saw her as a female banjar leader, a banjar is a system of about 120 families that operates like a township of sorts, making decisions for the community through a town hall process where a leader (who is always male) governs the process however it is social not political in nature.  While I’m sure some American “feminists” would scoff at the idea of teaching women sewing or cooking or any other domestic skill, I found it to be beautiful.  There is no perimeter or limit to how to empower a woman, and within this culture knowing how to contribute to their families was of the utmost importance. I, for one, think its the same in our own culture it just tends to look a little different.  But why should there be any shame in developing domestic skill? What she was offering women was an endless horizon.  Learning from her and one another the strength of community, the support you can find within one another, and how far you can move a society when all members are empowered.  It honestly was the first time I ever felt anything remotely close to feminism.  It was liberating to know the power of sharing your story, and helping others to be the best them, whatever that might be having no expectation of the outcome.  It reminded me of Julia Stiles’ character in Mona Lisa Smile.  All that education to be a housewife? No. All that education to have the choice.

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I wasn’t wrong when I assumed that Rose would facilitate learning in a unique way on this trip. What is it going to take for you to become? She would ask us.  Take things in, get emotional, ask deep questions of ourselves, reflect, inquire, swim, dance, talk, taste, and give yourself permission for the full range of human experience.  In so many words, she told us all of this on the trip. There were too many trips, too many faces, too many jokes laughs and moments to recall and recount with words that can never describe.  There were tears left in the Indian ocean, blood left on the beach, conversations thrown into the wind by myself if not each of us. I think it is safe to say we all left a little bit different than when we came.  And I think that’s the point of it all.  What I found I walked away from Bali learning was a little bit about an island in Indonesia, and a LOT about a woman named me.

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Straight from SOLES Global

June 16, 2014

Bonjour,

As you know, one of requirements for all SOLES graduate programs is that we all have an international academic experience. My name is Corinne, I am from France, and I work at the SOLES Global Center, located next to Bert’s cafe. First I would love for you to come and say hi next time you are in the building!

Now, I am here to convince you that the trips the Global Center offers are one of a kind experiences. This year, students have had the opportunity to travel to Sri Lanka, Bali, Spain, Kenya, England, Japan and many other destinations. Now you might think: “ Wait a minute, I cannot afford to travel, what am I going to do?” Do not worry: the units for Global Center trips are discounted to $700 per unit. Also, think of it as a once in a life-time experience and great investment. You get to travel with peers and teachers and learn in a new environment. The experiences are richer than I can even describe. Trust me! I went to Africa for my requirement and it was life changing in so many ways. Screen Shot 2014-06-16 at 9.25.08 AM

If you are not able to travel, however, there are other options available to help you meet your international requirement, though any alternative must be discussed and approved by your faculty advisor. Come see us! My advice: You are in graduate school enjoy the ride and ride the wave even if it takes you out of your comfort zone! That is the point and there are valuable lessons to be learned in stepping out of our personal boundaries.

A bientôt

Corinne

To read about other students’ Global Study experiences, look at posts tagged “Global Study“. 

Apartment Hunting

June 3, 2014

Coming from the Midwest, I was a little shocked with apartment prices here in San Diego. However, I would describe myself as “creatively frugal”, so I was determined to find an apartment within my tight budget. Although most people told me to expect paying $800/ month, I knew that was not an option, so I had to get creative. In addition to finding an apartment way under $800/month, I also had to find roommates. Not knowing a soul in San Diego, I turned to the Recently Admitted SOLES Facebook group to find potential roommates. I lucked out because I found my roommates and also one of them was willing to share a room to save on costs. I know sharing a room does not sound fun to most; however, you have to think of your priorities in apartment hunting. Is it location, price, safety, etc? Price and safety were major factors for me and sharing a room kept me within my budget and we were able to find an apartment close to campus. It is important to not only prioritize your wish list for an apartment but give yourself time to research places. Lovely, Trulia and Craigslist are a few websites I used and will use for next year’s apartment hunting. I highly recommend following the Facebook group for helpful tips and finding roommates. Good luck everyone!

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Here are a few tips from other students who have been successful in finding housing in San Diego:

  1. VISIT! It is hard to really know what a place looks like (and the neighborhood surrounding it) without visiting first. This may be difficult for some but if you can swing it, come out for a long weekend to apartment hunt.
  2. Be ready to act fast! One student said: “One day I missed a place by, literally, 30 seconds. The next morning I found the studio that I ended up getting and wanted. It was posted (Craigslist) and I immediately called and left a voicemail with a self-description and what I was looking for. The gentleman called me back a few minutes later and did a short phone interview before agreeing to show me the place. I liked it and applied immediately and was accepted.” Another admits: “I found a place (had a showing with TWELVE other people at the same time!!!) put an application in the next day and was paying my deposit the day after that. Things go quickly!!”
  3. Don’t look more than 30 days before you want to move, and look around the first of the month. “A realtor suggested that I look as close to the first of the month as possible because that’s when people put in notice and owners/landlords put up listings.”
  4. Know what is a necessity and what you can live without.  Sure you’d love a rooftop deck, but is it a necessity? Do you need to live on the beach or would living 5 miles out be okay?  Do you need to be near public transportation?  Make a list of the non-negotiables and stick to it!

Student Recognition in Diversity Work

May 15, 2014

I wanted to reach out to one of our graduating Clinical Mental Health Counseling students, Ruthie, who just received an award at this year’s Diversity Banquet so that she could talk about her receipt of the award and some of the things she has been involved in on campus.  Ruthie is an absolute force when it comes to advocating for her populations and really being a lighthouse within her community.  She has been a leader on campus as well as off volunteering, presenting at conferences, bringing key speakers to campus, starting organizations, facilitating dialogues and many many other amazing things. Below you will find her blog entry about receiving the Dr. Evelyn Kirkley Award for Leadership and what it has meant to her to be a leader on campus. In true Ruthie fashion, her response to my request to feature her will show you the kind of leader she is and exhibit exactly why she was honored with this award, she writes:  

Photo on 2013-10-12 at 18.42 #2My heart’s desire, as you write this article, is to model for other students the power we have to create movements of change. It is in the small justices we do for one another and for those we serve.  My intention for fellow students and the USD community is for them to live a life of changemaking. Instead of admonishing them to be the change, I provoke them to changemaking. From the smallest acts of kindness to macrosystemic change. This jouney has been tearful and hard at times, but my spirit is rich. Dr. Zachary Green once said, “Shed light without spreading fire.” I am a strange cookie, but I have a saying, “Fate sends the strangest people, upon the oddest situtaions, to do the neatest things.” If we shoot for the stars, we will at least hit the moon. May those I have served become greater agents of change then I could possibly dream. 

For the last nine years, the United Front Multicultural Center hosts the Diversity Banquet. At the banquet, awards are given for exemplary works in diversity. Requests for nominations are sent to students involved with the United Front Multicultural Center around April. The nomination form reads, “The Awards were created in 2006 to honor USD faculty and staff who contribute to the development of a campus community that is culturally diverse and create an educational environment that motivates and supports student learning and personal development. The honorees have dedicated and prepared students to make a positive impact in global society.” It is an opportunity to honor graduating seniors and graduate students for their accomplishments. Although, I was nominated for all the CLASS Awards, I was awarded one award. The categories for the awards were as follows:

  • The L. Reuben Mitchell Award for Campus Wide Impact
  • The Dr. Evelyn Kirkley Award for Leadership
  • The Dr. Joseph Colombo Award for Academics
  • The Dr. Judy Rauner Award for Social Justice
  • The Dr. Judith Liu Award for Service

I was awarded the Dr. Evelyn Kirkley Award for Leadership. This award is for a student who led an organization as a member of an executive board and through leadership capacity led initiatives, which contributed to the development of leadership in others.  Below is a portion of one of the nomination letters submitted.

She is the founder and president of a graduate student organization called Asian Students in Action (ASIA). Through her leadership, ASIA has increased in numbers from a mere five students to almost forty members within the first semester of their existence. She established a community that focused on academic excellence and compassionate service. She served by creating opportunities and supporting events and programming for community. In addition, she is a Rainbow Educator and Safe Space Ally. A few of the events she either spear headed, coordinated, or assisted were:

 

  • The War On Hope: An event that brought awareness to Child Ugandan Soldiers with trauma & PTSD, November 2013
  • ASIA Loves USD: A semester wide series of workshops held in Fall of 2013 that served the graduate student community. These included wellness and leadership training. She partnered with the Graduate Student Council to fund these events.
  • ASIA Orientation and Social Justice / Leadership Workshop: The ASIA orientation that taught students about social justice. This event collaborated with Rainbow Education and Changemakers training.
  • Changemaker Event: Collaborated with ASIA and Harry Dixon to produce an event to address suicide intervention and awareness
  • Not On Mime Watch: She produced a film that won first place in the hope category that addressed suicide intervention and awareness on campus. She partnered with the Wellness Center.

In addition, she has done extensive research on multicultural and social justice with an emphasis on intersectionality issues. As such, she has presented at various conferences. Her work has also included various types of social justice volunteer work.

 

  • Asian Sexual Minorities: SDSU Multicultural Conference, April 27, 2013
  • Healing the Sacred: Native Americans and Sexual Assault: International Studies of Women’s Sexual Health, San Diego, CA, February 22, 2014
  • Alright, High Five, Thumbs Up: Youth Empowerment Conference, October 5, 2013
  • Service & Support Working with LGBTQQIA Youth for School and Mental Health Counselors: University of San Diego, April 25, 2013
  • Local Community Service toward Social Justice included:
    • March Against Human Trafficking
    • Transgender Day of Empowerment
    • Transgender Day of Remembrance

 Ms. Inacay has the heart of a servant leader. She serves those she leads. In ASIA, she was mindful of each member and has developed the mission statement and constitution to support forward growth. She is passionate about social justice and LGBTQQIA issues. She currently is a counseling intern at Southern California American Indian Resource Center. There she counsels an underserved population and dedicates a significant amount of time, beyond the requirement, to help her clients. She is a hopeful individual. She demonstrates this in her positive attitude in working with those suffering from addictions, trauma, and mental health disorders.

Ruthie demonstrates a spirit of diversity, leadership, and service toward others. Her values show academic excellence and compassionate service. She is a role model for students and me in sustainable campus work, leadership, academics, social justice, and service.

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What the heck is Action Research?

May 5, 2014

In preparation for our Action Research Symposium this Friday, May 9, 2014 from 9:00am-7:00pm, I asked some of our SOLES Ambassadors who either have or will conduct action research to write a little bit about what it is.  Many of our graduate programs require action research as an exit requirement for the programs, so I thought what better way to hear what it is than straight from the scholars’ mouth?

Liz says:

What the Heck is Action Research?

 Good question. I am just a few days away from presenting my own action research project as my exit requirement for the Higher Education Leadership program. Even though I have been working on this project since January 2013, I really did not understand the true meaning of action research until just a few months ago.

 When I first applied to the program, I was told action research is different than a thesis because your topic should focus around the community you are a part of and how you can make a change within that community. In short, it is practitioner-based research. ‘Change’ is a scary word sometimes and the mistake I made was thinking the change I had to make had to be mind blowing.

 Action research entails a series of cycles (as many as you want) where you are taking action on something and then reflecting on it. There are several different versions of cycles to use as a guiding framework for your own research, or you can create your own model, like I did.

 A quick overview of my research: I am a co-advisor to an undergraduate organization called the Out-of-State Student Council. Part of my research entailed learning more about the struggles of undergraduate students at USD but the majority focused on the student council itself. When I started in my position, the council was pretty much run by a professional staff member and then when I arrived as a graduate assistant, I began co-advising. I found myself creating meeting agendas, sending reminders, having a large hand in organizing the events and leading the meetings. I quickly realized this organization needed more student leadership and ownership and the tasks I was completing could, and should have been done by students on the council. Therefore, I met with my supervisor and we brainstormed with students and created a student executive board. My cycles entailed interventions with students and after the first year of the new council, I collected feedback from them to determine what else we could improve. Like I said, not mind blowing but it definitely made a difference.

 When you complete an action research project through SOLES, you quickly find so many of the theories learned throughout the program are linked to your research and everything really starts to come together. You will put a lot of work into this project so you want to make sure it is something you are passionate about, but don’t let it stress you out. Make the most of it and don’t let it freak you out (I know, easier said than done).

 In one of my group meetings with my research chair, Dr. Getz, she said, “Your research is successful when your community can carry on without you.” That is when it all clicked for me and I knew I had made a difference for my students.

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Corey says:

Engaging with action research is a psychologically demanding yet rewarding practice. The purpose behind action research is to identify a problem in one’s immediate environment, plan a course of inquiry, and track cyclical change within oneself and other collaborators in order to create positive social or organizational change. Within this process, one should expect for the research to be ambiguous and in flux at various points. It is not a linear path simply tracking correlation between variables like a typical quantitative research process would do. Action research is about rejecting the view that the researcher is an outside and objective observer separate from the data. Instead, action research calls for the researcher to admit biases and aspirations and put them in the middle of the research process. Action research is also different from traditional forms of research because it calls for one to be a catalyst for passionate change and discover new theories that are useful for practitioners immediately in an organization. Action research is not about simply forming new theories that push knowledge into an esoteric realm. It is about connecting human lived experience with new knowledge and positive social change in the present.

I am currently beginning my action research journey by recognizing my own identity development as a man in higher education while simultaneously planning to work with undergraduate men serving on student conduct hearing boards. My hope is to learn things from these men so that together we can work as collaborators and develop new ways for the student conduct process at USD to challenge destructive conceptions of masculinity that I believe send a disproportionate number of college men through the conduct process (at USD and across the country). I will expect to repeat cycles of planning, implementation, and evaluation to focus on solutions as much as the process itself and encourage human development both within my collaborators and myself. Honestly, this is the first time that I am designing research that does not seem arbitrary or forced. It is an issue that I am passionate about addressing and am confident that my work over the next year will be extremely relevant and inform future colleagues and students in their attempts to engage college men in healthy and constructive ways at the University.

 For viewing literature related to my views and work with action research I recommend the following:

 Action Research (2014), by Ernest Stringer

 College Men and Masculinities: Theory, Research, and Implications for Practice (2010), Edited by Shaun Harper and Frank Harris III

Masculinities (1995), by R.W. Connell

Calling “In”: A matter of getting my ego out of the way

May 1, 2014

(A blog post by SOLES Ambassador and PhD student, Nick, which was originally posted on his blog “Lets be Franc“)

On Thursday night, I guest lectured in the History and Philosophy of Higher Education course about chapters 7 through 9 of Barbara Miller Solomon’s book on women in higher education in the USA. It’s actually one of my favorite lectures to do because I get to make use of all the times I have watched Mona Lisa Smile, which is probably more than 10 now. :}

At some point in the conversation, we started talking about the ways that women – both feminist and “non”-feminists – police one another on things like fashion, makeup, being a stay-at-home mom versus working full time and not having children, and privilege/oppression/social justice issues. And two students named several experiences of being “called out” for saying or doing something problematic, which left them feeling as though their dedication to being a social justice ally was called out and that their existence as human beings was called out.

It reminded me of a post from Black Girl Dangerous my friend Cristina shared on social media about a “less disposable way of holding each other accountable”: calling someone IN, which is different than calling someone OUT. The author does a great job of referencing situations where people – who are gathered together and committed to the work of advancing various types of social justice issues – somehow lose compassion for each other and engage in “all types of fucked up behavior” when someone says or does something that supports the marginalization of another group. I have absolutely witnessed this. And, sadly, I have absolutely engaged in this sort of behavior before. Many people in my doctoral cohort probably remember when I first started the program and was so quick to belittle people for their language and super-unaware-problematic-and-privileged statements. It is not how I try to engage in these conversations now, and I am saddened at how many people I probably mistreated as a result of my lack of compassion (which, of course, was a reflection of my lack of compassion for myself).

So what might it actually look like to call someone in when we are doing social justice work? I think it depends a lot on what’s being talked about, where it’s being talked about, and who’s doing the talking. For me, it involves one primary thing:

Recognizing what my ego is doing so I can set it aside.

For example, one of the students in that Thursday night class made a comment about the evolving roles of men in the home, and that an egalitarian home requires men like himself to work with their “wives, girlfriends, or fiancés.” I was not angered by the heteronormativity latent in his comment (my impression was that he just simply is unaware and not saying it out of malice), but it did trigger all the times I have been treated as less than by others for not being heterosexual and made me want to say something like “Ummm, not every man wants a female or woman romantic partner.” Before I reacted, I recognized that this was what my ego was doing, formulated a few questions, and was ready to reply to him with inquisitive care. Other students chimed in, and the moment passed, but later we talked about “smashing” and Boston marriages, which later on provided me an opportunity to talk about how many straight people assume other people are straight without realizing it. Though I didn’t call him out directly, I was able to set aside my ego so I could call him in (when it seemed like the “right” time) and not put him on blast. Did he get the message? Who knows. As with most of my work as a social justice educator and ally in student affairs, I invest a lot of my time and energy into others without ever knowing or seeing the results (or lack thereof) of my efforts.

I realize some people may think this strategy of calling in (and the way I did so above) appeases rather than challenges “the Oppressor.” And maybe it does in the way that it might allow those in privileged positions the freedom to be a totally offensive goober and say and do whatever they want without critical thought and care. AND, I just don’t see how using my anger – fueled by all the times I have been physically and verbally harassed for not being heterosexual or traditionally masculine – in order to hurt someone else who has hurt me does anyone any good, particularly in spaces where people are gathered to discuss or do social justice-related stuff. I have hurt people before in this way, and no bridges were formed between the two of us, no deeper understanding was reached, and no one was really able to “hear” each other. I also recognize that my various intersections of privilege have placed a lens on the way I approach calling someone in, and that it may not be the most easy thing in the world to do for marginalized community members to, time and time again, try to be patient with well-intentioned and social justice-oriented privileged people who are unaware, uncritical, and sometimes downright ignorant. I can’t fathom just how exhausting, degrading, dehumanizing, and frustrating that is.

And, this is one thing I can bring to the work of advancing social justice.

PS – I highly doubt I would use a calling in strategy with people like Bill O’Reilly, George Zimmerman, Anne Coulter, etc. As a good friend and colleague once told me, “If you show your ass in a conversation, then expect it to be handed back to you.” You can’t be going around throwing your privilege everywhere and then get mad at people when they dare to (and deservedly so) throw your privilege back at you.

Ace-ing the Interview!

April 10, 2014

1Admissions interviews can be really tough for many of us. It is an opportunity for you to present yourself to the university faculty. In other words, you need to know how to market yourself. Last Friday, I was fortunate enough to be one of the interviewers for the admission interview process. During the process, it was not difficult to recognize some students are more anxious than the others. And the sad thing is, this performance anxiety can become the obstacle for you to reach your goal. Before your nerves get the better of you, learn what to expect – and how to ace your college interview.

Understanding the process

What is the interview for? It is usually an opportunity for the admission officers to look for qualities that cannot be reflected in the application. Interviewing is another extra opportunity for you to display your strong interest to the program, and it lets the interviewers get to know your personality behind those GPA and GRE scores. Therefore, please don’t hide yourself during the interview. Speak up!

Also, please don’t hesitate to contact the admissions office and the department about your questions and concerns. It is another way to show your sincerity and passion to the school. Some interviewers may recognize your name because you had contacted them before. It is a good start to let them remember you.

Be prepared!

Just like any other examinations, you need to be prepared in order to make good impressions from the interviewers. Research the college/program by checking out its website, brochure, and course catalog. Learn as much about the institution as possible before you walk into the interview. Knowing what is the school mission may give you a hint on what are the qualities do the interviewers are looking for.

Review your application materials. Refreshing your mind about what makes you special. Interviewers may not remember everything on your application. It is your role to emphasize what you want them to know about you.

Practice some generic and specific questions. There are usually few basic questions that you probably know already: Why do you want to go to USD? What do you expect to gain from the program? How would you prepare yourself to the program? You will also want to prepare for questions that ask you to identify key topics or experiences that are important to you. Think in advance about some of your experiences that can link back to the interest of your major. Something that are unique about you and allow the interviewers to remember you.

Ask questions. Show your interest in the school by asking specific question. Of course, don’t ask question that can be easily answered by reading the school’s brochure.

2On the BIG day

Profession attire never goes wrong for an interview. Make sure you spare some time to look for directions if you are not familiar with the area. Plan  to arrive at least 15 minutes early. The extra time will let you take a few minutes to relax and prepare yourself physically and mentally. Introduce yourself to the faculty, and greet them with a handshake and smile. :)

Again, this is the time to sell yourself. Please don’t answer the question simply with a “yes” or “no.” Elaborate your answer with specific examples, just as what you might usually do on your essay. Also, be honest and positive! You don’t want to fake the answer, because people can tell. Be yourself and be honest, that is the key! Highlight the good things about yourself and put a positive “spin” your background. Remember, problems can be also viewed as challenges!

Follow up

Make notes about the interview. Send a thank-you note to the interviewer. Thank the person for his or her time and refer to somethings specific that you both have discussed.

Last but not least, remember to RELAX!

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